Paying For It; a comic strip memoir about being a john
In this comic book by the Canadian Chester Brown and funded by the Canadain Council for the Art the author and illustrator explores his interactions with women who sell their bodies for sex and how others respond.
In the beginning he has a girlfriend who decides to be with another man yet...she still lets him live at her house...which says something...
When he hears the new couple fighting he has an ephiphany and no longer wants the burden of romantic love... namely jealousy/ possession...but because he is horny and doesn't possess the social skills for casual sex he becomes a "john" so he says. But in reality he doesn't want to invest anything of himself into love making only his money...no chance taker here.
He writes reviews of the women he has sex with (on the internet), worries about cost and their feelings and at the end...is in a monogamous relationship with one of the middle tier hookers
as opposed to street and high class.
Yet another sign the commodification of all things human is almost complete... -but i thought that it was the old profession in the book-
...let me continue...
With the normalization of sex for love and then paying directly for sex the mystery is no longer... and love becomes merely a superstition going the way of the number thirteen or black cats...the educated middle class drive us into oblivion as they shout the dominant cultures mores under the guise of freedom or did some one say human rights...fuck fuck fuck...their righteousness is wrong.
The sweet phrase "no money no honey" takes on pertinent action.
Sex reminds us we are all fallible and aging humans...and only if you pay are you guaranteed ot get laid... human all to human as Nietschze wrote in a book somebody should review.
Brown writes romantic love was introduced around 18th century by French poets or mayber i read that wrong... back in the old day marriage was practical...some argue we are evolving.
Baker says two adults should be able to decide the currency of their relationship and prostitution is just a form of dating where you already know the desired outcome...though he says dating he means shopping.
The reification is (closer and closer to 1984) missed and capitalism again becomes an assumption.
Only within the confines of a capitalistic society is this book interesting...not much color in a black and white life...yet here we are...last night i paid for sex and i got laid...go on a date and see if you get laid...take a chance plastic man.
As the sexual rights activist Veronica Monet writes in the bookcover
"If sex workers are ever to claim their human rights, it will not be without the support of their clients. May other clients follow in your footsteps by stepping out of the shadows of shame and into an empowered claim for our sexual bill of rights."
A thought provoking book on the extremes in adventure capitalsim.